I’m being evicted

I just found a note on my door, giving me 30 days to move out. I’m sitting here thinking about my options, and it appears I don’t have any.Β I guess I should start learning how to live out of my car.

72 thoughts on “I’m being evicted

  1. omg gurl!!!! wtf!!!… now I am worried about you 😦 this really upsets me…gurl …why must we keep going thru these hard times and trials I know us here have had enough can not get ahead at all…and just bad luck after bad luck… my heart hurts seeing and reading this…..
    Maybe you will find a nice place that you can call home and it will not take all the cash to live as well… fuck fuck fuck… I am not clicking on the like star since I hate hearing this…. bbs gonna eat while I can… hang in there my dear

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        • I’ve never been to a women’s shelter. I guess my main worry would be safety. It’s not like I can protect myself. And can you imagine what the noise level would be like? Seriously, I wonder if I could stay sane in a place like that. πŸ™‚

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        • If I had some money I would gladly help you. I would be homeless for a year now if my mum hadn’t financially looked after me – the government had unjustly stopped my benefit as I had tried to study. I see what you say about the women’s shelter. Do you have empty houses round there? A room at someone’s? Have you heard of the couchsurfing community online? Big hugs dear friend. 🐻 🍟

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  2. I’m sorry to hear that as well. I wish that I had a place for you in the meantime, but that probably sounds sketched out since you barely know me 😦

    please keep us updated.. xo

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  3. If New Mexico is anything like New York, the 30 days begins starting March 1st, since they are required to give you the 30 days notice prior to the the 1st of the month. If they wait until on or after the 1st, the 30 days begins the next month starting on the 1st. It’s too late for me to research this but I will see what happens tomorrow. If so this might buy you a little time. They also cannot evict you without a court order. But due to tenant blacklist you want to avoid things getting to the point they take you to court. I would ask them for a bit more time due to your being disabled and see what they say.

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    • I’ve been wondering how I’m going to find another apartment if I’ve been blacklisted by an eviction notice. If I find another apartment before March 31st, will the new place learn of the eviction? Does the eviction go on my credit report, and where else would it show up?

      It took me a year to pack for the move from Texas, so I would love some extra time. I just don’t think she’d be willing to give it. I know they say it doesn’t hurt to ask, but it’s hard asking for something from a woman with the cruelty to evict me for no good reason. I keep wondering how many other tenants who pay their rent every month have also been evicted.

      I can’t tell you how much you’re helping me figure this out. I suppose this is one of the bad parts of being single — not having anyone to help you figure things out. πŸ™‚


      • You are not technically being evicted. What is happening is that your lease is expiring and after first offering to renew it, they have decided instead to give you 30 days notice to vacate. This is not the same as an eviction. What this means is that if you are not out after the 30 days, they may then begin an eviction procedure against you. Merely getting this notice does not mean you have been blacklisted. To evict you they will have to take you to court, at which time you can present your side of the story and in some instances, the judge may even give you more time but I wouldn’t count on that. In New York I’ve seen people who weren’t paying rent get an extra 6 months to find a new place, but that is New York. I have also seen people ordered out at the trial, but even then it still takes time for the eviction notice to be served and you have 3 days after that. Generally it will take a few weeks to get into court depending on their schedule. After that they will give you an eviction notice which usually has to be served in person or by certified mail and gives you 3 days to get out, after which they will have the sheriff come and remove your stuff and put it in storage…which you will have to pay for to get your stuff back. They cannot bring an eviction proceeding against you until the 30 days are up.

        Read the New Mexico tenant guide for a better understanding of the process in your state.

        The way the blacklist works is that if you have an actual court-ordered eviction your name goes into a database maintained by some company like a credit bureau and you may have issues getting an apartment after that. But they have only given you notice to vacate and you haven’t done anything to be concerned about since the 30 days aren’t up.

        As far as asking for more time, try to be nice and see what happens. After that I would go directly to her corporate overlords and ask them for more time. If that doesn’t work you might mention that this seems like a retaliatory eviction due to the fact that you complained about conditions at the complex. They have the right to ask you to leave at the end of your lease but it is odd that they first offered you a renewal and then turned around and gave you 30 days notice to vacate after you complained. It is illegal to evict someone for complaining about conditions, but then it is not technically an eviction yet. make sure you save both notices and if possible try to speak to someone in legal aid. Ideally what you want is to stay where you are at a reduced rent. Don’t assume that the manager is the final arbiter of that decision.

        If all that fails you might mention that you are connected with many bloggers all over the world and the fact they are evicting a disabled person for no good cause is going to be spread all over the internet and who knows how much media attention that will get. The ruthless corporation which owns your complex will e happy to throw the manager under the bus if that happens.

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        • Learning about landlord/tenant law is so much fun. Seriously, I can’t remember when I’ve had so much fun. πŸ™‚

          You’re right, it’s a Notice to Vacate, not an eviction notice. I’m guessing landlords are allowed to fire tenants for no good cause, just like employers are allowed to fire employees. Especially since my apartment is not being subsidized by the federal government. (Unless you want to count Social Security benefits.) It seems like tenants who receive federal benefits for housing have more rights than those who don’t.

          The notice doesn’t give a reason why I’m being forced to vacate. Unless this is some kind of bargaining chip to either get me to move or to stop complaining. And it will be harder to connect with agencies like legal aid when I don’t have a phone. I know, I know, you want me to spend, what, $45 on a phone? It takes longer and is harder to do things without a phone, but it is cheaper. And talking on the phone is painful for me.

          Seems like it should be illegal to evict a disabled person. But many of those who choose medical cannabis are facing the same situation.

          I don’t want to stay somewhere that I’m obviously not welcome. I think I tried my best to get the landlord to do her job, but I don’t think I can continue this fight anymore. I don’t think my pain will allow it. Maybe after I get settled somewhere else, I can make the necessary reports to whatever agency will accept them. (Not like anyone will read them or care.)

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      • BTW when does your lease actually expire? They can’t get you out before your lease expires even if they give you 30 days notice unless you did something wrong and then they will have to get a court order to evict you. In an apartment complex full of pit bulls they are going to have a hard time making the case you are a bad tenant.

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        • My lease expires on February 29th. However, I think an email constitutes a written contract, even without a signature. Even banks accept an IP address as a signature, along with passwords, just like email. As I see it, the landlord made an offer of renewal. I accepted that offer. I made my first payment on the contract as dictated by these terms, accepted by both parties. After accepting payment, the renewal contract was rescinded. Sounds like fraud to me.


  4. So sorry to hear this. Landlords have all the power, but what Payne Hertz says might give you a bit more time to think of something else.
    Do you have no family or friends nearby who could help you in the short term?

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  5. I can’t sleep due to pain, so I did some research and have a few links:

    New Mexico renters guide

    Landlord Tenant Disputes
    Are you having Landlord-Tenant issues?
    If so, please call Law Access at 998-4529, or if you are out of the City limits, please call 1-800-340-9771.

    Landlord-Tenant Hotline Albuquerque
    FREE legal telephone advice for low-income Albuquerque tenants.

    Possibly a different hotline:

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  6. You should not end up homeless living in your car. Though it is hardly an ideal living situation, you could try renting a room in someone’s house or doing an apartment share. I know all the reasons I wouldn’t want to do that but it beats living out of your car and the rent will be substantially less than you pay now. Just to get an idea:


    This can be temporary until you save enough to move to Colorado.

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    • Reading through ads on Craig’s List… oh boy, something to look forward to. Hopefully, my past experience on Craig’s List will have taught me how to spot the ads just looking for sex. πŸ™‚


  7. I’m so sorry to hear that…you must be totally freaked out 😦 Some good suggestions here though, I hope you find somewhere new to live soon and can relax a little. Try to use breathing and calming stuff in the meantime – I know it sounds like crap, but anything that might ease your stress levels a bit is good – stress is so bad for pain… Let us know what happens, and good luck. Nell πŸ™‚

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  8. omg! i thought you spoke with them regarding your concerns and that they still had offered you a lease….what happened? why did they change their minds? rent a storage unit for your stuff (its only about 30$/mo and use shelters or your car to save until you can get in another apt somewhere (they did give you a list of less expensive apts to try).

    im not being ignorant about your emotional pain atm, i’m just problem solving first. but i can’t imagine what you are going thru mentally. you must be terrified and shocked and stunned. i cant tell you it will be ok, but after this hurdle is dealt with, then it will get better.

    but in the meantime, keep your chin up and look for a shelter or stay in your car, store your furniture and stuff, and save up for a coupla months for rent and deposit, and then you will make it. and when you are not out doing this business, let yourself cry, feel, and mourn this loss. be strong during the day while you take care of business, then later let yourself feel.

    im so sorry this has happened to you. i wish i could say and do more to help. maybe this is your shot to make it to AZ or CO? just get in the car and drive and see where you land?

    keep in touch when you can, let me know how your’re doing, what’s happening.

    love ya

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    • I know you understand how I feel, Kat. And here you are, making things work with a roommate. I’m so proud of you. πŸ™‚

      Of course I’m thinking about getting rid of all my stuff and heading to Colorado. There are plenty of stories of other people who’ve done the same, for all sorts of reasons. I wish I had the balls to do that, but it takes time for me to plan everything out. I keep remembering all I had to go through to set up here in Albuquerque — the new driver’s license and plates, insurance, bank account… Holy crap, it’s not only a lot to deal with, it’s expensive. And the cost of living is higher in Colorado.

      Just between me and you, I think I’ll just sit here and wait for my knight in shining armor to come and rescue me. I’ll write a book about it, become famous and rich. And all this will just be a bad memory. πŸ™‚

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  9. I am so, so sorry that you are in this position. I am like Kat – almost instantly on problem-solving mode. If there is anything that I or anyone else can do for you, I hope that you won’t hesitate to ask. It has been almost two decades since I have lived in ABQ but I’m not averse to making phone calls on your behalf to try to give you a viable solution.

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  10. Johnna, like Kat my immediate response is to go into problem-solving mode. I found this: https://www.cabq.gov/family/income-eligible-services/homeless-services/eviction-prevention. Not sure if you’ve contacted them already or where you’ve contacted to prevent homelessness in the first place, but there’s gotta be services that you can access! Hostels are cheap ways to meet people (the young, adventurous backpackers with money) who can help with gas money if you wanted to make your way to AZ or CO. So sorry this is your reality atm. Feel free to delegate research stuff at me. I can look up stuff for you when you’re busy out and about getting stuff done. Consider it.
    myspanglishfamilia@gmail.com xx

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  11. Most states and cities have Legal Aid societies to represent people who can’t afford an attorney. It may not be a long term solution, but Legal Aid may be able to help keep you from being evicted in the short term and perhaps advise you on how best to handle your situation.

    Best wishes and good luck.

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  12. That sucks shit! Assholes! If I had money Id donate…but you know my story!! My home is open to you, if you can get over here πŸ™‚ … my thoughts and my best wishes are with you in the meantime … arohamai friend.

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  13. Thanks so much to everyone for your comments. As I just told Lisa, I’ve moved through the being shocked phase, and now I can’t seem to stop crying. I hate feeling so sorry for myself, but I can’t seem to help it. I need to figure things out, but I’m having trouble using my brain. I’ve got lots of decisions to make, but I’m not sure I’m up to making them. Unfortunately, I have no choice. And I hate not having any options…

    I keep thinking, why me? What did I do to deserve this kind of cruel treatment? But the fact is that this happens all the time — I just never thought it would happen to me. But I should know better by now.

    And I’m so very, very tired of not having the power to fight back. Why is power so expensive? And why do the powerful use this power against us, instead of trying to help? I keep thinking, what happened to this woman’s humanity?

    A landlord is really a Lord, with more power than I’ll ever have. Being in constant pain means you have to pick your battles, and I’m still recovering from losing the fight with Unum for my long term disability benefits. I’m weak. And my landlord knows this.

    I did finally find the balls to fully read the eviction notice, and it looks like I have until March 31st. Right now I’m wondering if I should call Good Will to pick up all my stuff, except what will fit in my car, or try to afford a storage space. Getting a storage space means paying movers more, but I don’t know how much it all costs yet. This is one of the reasons I hate numbers so much…

    Thanks again for all the support. It’s been a strain trying to make sense (and not making any typos), so I’m signing off for now. πŸ™‚

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    • I get that! Trying to remember what I did when this happened, and I’m to lazy to go through all the old posts lol … brownies, they help lol … I swung between crying incessantly to be filthy angry I think … angry with all the things you’ve just mentioned…that’s its all fucken unfair to kick someone when theyre down! … but thinking now, in the aftermath, I prolonged the process of moving on I think because I wanted to stay where I was…physically and mentally..and everyone said ‘oh, something better will be coming your way’…wanted to hit those ones! But when I slowed it all down, marked out the days till I moved, then started slowly packing…and we didn’t even know where we we’re going till like 7 days before we were due to move!…and then paced it out…a day to sulk and cry ;), a day to rest; a day to watch tv and forget about everything; a day to eat brownies; a day to be fucking angry!! … and that seemed to work for me ;)…well I’m still here !
      And now when we drive past the old house, I lean out the window and give them the finger when they wave to us…yelling…fuck you cunt…on the way … It helps πŸ˜‰ lol … xxoo

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      • You’re right, of course. I haven’t wanted to face the increased pain and stress of a move, or spend that kind of money on movers. But I can’t save money while I’m paying this much for rent, so I have to figure something else out. This is one of those times when I wish someone else could make all the decisions… it’s such a heavy weight. It’s hard enough to deal with the weight of the pain, and dealing with all this other stuff feels like drowning. Now I’m just trying to find some air… πŸ™‚

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        • Oohh I hear yah! And feel for yah! Remember only too well what this was like…but I didn’t have physical pain too deal with! If I could make the decisions for you, I would! All I can say though, which I pretty sure a smart lady advised me,..is take a breath. ..lots of them…it’ll be alright! Xx

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  14. I just wanted to assemble a few more ideas and options for you to consider in o particular order.

    1. MOVING TO COLORADO: The nearest major city to Albuquerque is Pueblo. CO. I am assuming you want a city with public transport in case you lose your car. Rent will be cheaper in smaller outlying towns. According to City-Data.com, the cost of living index for Pueblo is the same as ABQ, or 93.8 vs an average of 100 for the whole US. Gross median rent is cheaper at $710 vs $800.00


    2. COST OF MOVING: Do it yourself vs moving company. It is almost always cheaper to rent a Uhaul and hire some guys to load your truck than it is to hire a mover, especially for a long distance haul. You can hire 2 guys at $15.00 an hour and I doubt it would take 8 hours to load the amount of stuff in a one bedroom apartment. You can find laborers or movers on Craigslist. You can also hire someone to pack for you if you need it. So with tips figure a max of $600 for labor loading and unloading the truck. Truck rental itself is less than $40.00 a day typically and mileage is under $1.00 a mile, less if you rent the truck during off times. Pueblo is 336 miles away. You will likely have to drive the truck yourself, and you can rent a trailer for your car. I would expect a DIY move to be well under $1200 barring any major problems such as getting stuck with a truck and no one to unload it.

    3. WHERE TO GET BOXES: Liquor stores are a good source for strong, smaller boxes which are ideal for moving and storage. Other sources listed here:


    4. GOFUNDME: Make a post indicating that Lisa has set up a Gofundme for you and give the link. It is doubtful anyone is going to notice the link on her post buried in this comment thread.

    5. Do reach out for support. I got evicted myself 8 months ago from a place I had lived in for 16 years. The landlord gave me just one month’s notice as well but I was able to negotiate a few more months.

    Moving is considered extremely stressful for healthy people with toms of friends and family to help out. Getting evicted when you are disabled and have nowhere to go and no one nearby to help you is incredibly demoralizing. You suddenly realize just how precarious and insecure your existence really is, and that is a very scary place to be. So please do not try to take this on all by yourself it is okay to ask for help. You absolutely need help with this! Your name may be Stahl but you do not have to be the Woman of Steel. I can’t stress this fact enough.

    Local churches may help you with packing and maybe even the move itself. Who knows? They may be able to set you up with temporary shelter if worse comes to worse. Call everyone you possibly can. If you don’t have a phone ask a neighbor or buy a cheap phone at Wal-Mart with a Straight Talk card which costs $45.00 a month without any plan, so you just pay for it during the month you need it and let is go idle at no charge after that. This will be much easier with a cellphone, trust me.

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    • I have already researched Colorado, and Pueblo was my choice, too. Great minds think alike, huh? πŸ™‚

      I saved the boxes from my move to Albuquerque, because they were too expensive to be considered trash. πŸ™‚

      The only time I drove a vehicle larger than a small car, I had an accident. Sure, that was ages ago, but I was only driving a van. I hope I can drive a U-Haul truck. πŸ™‚

      I don’t suppose I can cancel my renter’s insurance? (Another useless expense, required here, but not anywhere else that I’ve ever lived.)

      Anyone who is able to and would consider making a donation to the GoFundMe site will take the time to read the comments, don’t you think? πŸ™‚

      I think I can handle the packing, especially if I have more time. I’m still trying to figure out what my written response will be to my inhumane landlord. Sometimes, no response is best, especially if I can figure out a way to get out of here.

      I’m sorry you’ve been through the same thing. It’s hard to find a place in this world when you’re disabled by pain, and it’s incredibly unfair that so many people take advantage and make it harder. I suppose it’s all about the idea of pulling yourself up by your bootstraps, but when you don’t have any bootstraps, I’m not sure how that’s possible. πŸ™‚

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      • I just used Google Maps to look for the nearest city but I had looked into Pueblo for myself based on its being reported as a low-cost city in the Southwest to live in. Soon as I read it snows there I was like screw that πŸ™‚

        A U-Haul truck by itself is not hard to drive. Once you are on the road it is scarcely different than driving a car. Just remember to give yourself extra room in turns by pulling further ahead before making the turn than you normally do. With a trailer things get a bit more complicated πŸ™‚

        You can cancel your renters insurance but wait to see if they will give you more time first. If it is required in the lease then it will be a lease violation to cancel it and possible reason to evict you. I would not write to the landlord yet but go and talk to the manager and see if she will give you an extension. Ask her why she is evicting you and explain that you are disabled and need time to find a new place as well as save money for the move. If she won’t let you stay on a month-to-month basis you might ask for a 6 month lease with the promise to be out in 6 months. See what she says and then write to the head honcho if you get no response.

        You really should make your GoFundMe more visible. Seriously, People may not read all the comments here and it won’t hurt to do so. This thing is real, and it is going to happen whether you are prepared for it or not. I wouldn’t count on a white knight showing up so a bunch of anonymous people helping out with small donations may be the best you can hope for. You must be willing to do everything possible to prepare for this with the most important being gathering money if you can. With enough money this goes from being an impossible nightmare to being stressful but doable. Swallow your pride and do what you know you have to do. This is about survival now. In the meantime stuff your face with chocolate, smoke it if you got it and cry your eyes dry–anything to relieve the stress and escape from reality for a moment.

        It really is disheartening to discover how cruel and ruthless some people can be. It is no skin off their backs to cut you some slack here and give you time to move out, or even reconsider and let you stay. It’s not like you weren’t paying the rent or creating a nuisance like the pit-bull people. It seems sometimes that morality and compassion are in short supply nowadays. Perhaps you will be pleasantly surprised by the generosity of strangers. I certainly hope so. But at least know that among your fellow exiles here in Cyberia are people who do care about you and want to help you get through this ordeal.

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  15. If your computer has a microphone and speakers, you can make local calls for free using Google. You will need a gmail account for this.


    I tried it to test out my new phone when I got it and it worked. It is easy to do once you have the Gmail account.

    Re: your point above about accepting new lease. Read your lease and see if it has an automatic renewal clause. As the name implies an automatic renewal lease will automatically renew unless either you or the landlord give at least 30 days notice prior to the expiration date that you don’t intend to continue the lease. Failure to respond within that time may result in you having a lease for whatever time it states so that is something to consider. The lease itself may specify a longer notice, such as 60 days.

    Generally, if you have a lease a landlord cannot evict you or insist you leave unless you have done something wrong, such as not pay rent or create a nuisance. Even then, they have to give you written notice of the problem and give you a chance to correct it. But if your lease is ending the landlord can refuse to renew your lease. They don’t even have to give you 30 days notice usually since it is assumed you will leave at the end of the lease unless you say otherwise. If it is an automatic renewal they must give you 30 days notice to vacate. If the landlord accepts your rent for the month after the expiration of the lease the rental then becomes a “month-to-month” rental on the same terms as the old lease, but only for one month at a time. They also have to give you 30 days notice to end the month-to-month tenancy.

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    • I’m worried about what she’ll charge me for March, since I’m now on a month-to-month. I guess she could also charge me extra for February, retroactively. I would love more time to make the move, but that would mean a lot more money to stay here. I’m gonna check out the apartments on the other side of town — I guess you would call it the bad part of town. Been downsizing for many years now, and I figured I would end up either in the bad part of town or homeless. Makes me really dislike being right all the time. πŸ™‚

      And I’ll check into the phone thing, thanks. But I basically made the move to New Mexico without using a phone, so I hope it will be the same case here. Actually, I have a cheap cell phone, one of those pay-as-you-go kind. It’s like $25/month, but it’s really hard to hear on it. I never did figure out how to use it very well, either. Just more trouble than it’s worth.

      However, I am thinking about splurging on a baseball bat. πŸ™‚


  16. I am a strong believer in the Three Rs: Recreation, Reconstruction and Revenge, and a baseball bat is good for all three πŸ™‚ If you are downsizing consider a studio. It will be a lot cheaper than a one bedroom. If you are willing to take a chance in living in a “bad neighborhood” you can rent an apartment or house in a good neighborhood in Mexico for a fraction of what you’d pay for a shithole in the US. Check out these prices for Juarez:


    Apparently the Pope is coming to visit so prices and availability may be an issue this month but better in March. To get the dollar price for rentals divide by 18. So something that says $3.500 (pesos, they use the same symbol as the dollar) is actually $194.00 US. You can probably find a fully furnished unit in a nice area for $300.00 US a month or less and utilities are cheaper in Mexiico. You can find cheaper rentals and a better environment if you head further south of the border. Understand that an unfurnished apartment in Mexico likely has no refrigerator, stove or hot water heater or even kitchen cabinets, so apartments labelled “amueblada” (furnished) may be the best bet.

    I have been dreaming about moving to Ensenada myself, which has perfect weather, like San Diego. There are a lot of expats living in Baja California and people can live pretty well there on SS Disability.

    Just exploring options here, so you know homelessness doesn’t have to be one of them.

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    • It appears that all of my decisions revolve around bud… I think I’ve decided against trying to go ahead and move to Colorado right now, mostly because of what I would need to do to join the program (and register myself with the state). And I’m really hoping that the Pueblo dispensaries are nothing like the ones here in Albuquerque. (Checking out Pueblo is on my list of things to do before I move there.)

      I’ve been to border towns in Mexico a few times, and I don’t think I would choose to go that way. Learning the language is an obstacle I just can’t face right now, along with how I would find a good bud connection.

      And I would love to rent a studio, but they never come with space to rent a full-size washer and dryer, which I need for my quilts. However, I’m not going to let that stop me if I find the right place. It’s just that I’m not fond of using the public washing facilities. You can’t use the ones in apartment complexes, they’re too disgusting. When I first moved here, I went to a washateria, and it wasn’t too bad… a lot of extra work… and then winter arrived. πŸ™‚

      A lot of pain patients like the heat, but I like the cold. Perhaps it’s from living in Houston for most of my life, where the heat kept you inside for 10 months out of the year. And don’t get me started on the humidity… Yeah, I like the snow. If I had a choice, I’d move to Seattle, because I like the rain more. πŸ™‚


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